Well, WHY NOT? I guess I'll try this again. Cause like...my baby is stomping his feet in his crib at 9:47pm and I dunno. I don't see myself falling asleep anytime soon.
Being a mom is a funny thing. I mean, for me right now...I am in the phase of: "Do I let him cry for 5 minutes to see if he falls asleep? Or will that overstimulate him and he will have an even HARDER time falling asleep? But if I go give him his passifier now, am I just teaching him I'm at his beck and call every time he makes a peep? Aren't I making it so he has no ability to self-soothe? But he DID have a runny nose today which maybe means I should comfort him or give him some slack in this self-soothing department?" In fact, these are the very thoughts that are running through my mind RIGHT. THIS. INSTANT. Because really, he's crying and it's just sad.
I hate hearing my baby cry. But! His face can be really cute sometimes when he does it. But I really don't love letting him cry all by his lonesome in a dark room. UGHHH the dilemmas of a first time over-thinking mom.
In other news...I LOVE LISTS. How do you people live in this world without lists?! Here is the truth. I have a spiral notebook that every single day turns a new page. Every day I write a list of "To Do Today". It is mostly the same each day, but certain things rotate.
ALSO, I have a list that is permanent on my fridge. It's a cleaning schedule. NO. I AM NOT PERFECT AT THIS! I know you all love to think I perfectly stick to my organization and lists, but no. Usually my daily to do lists contain what I was supposed to do the day before. Sigh...I try my best. But I actually LOVE my cleaning schedule list.
Side note: I just heard him cough like a CHOKING sound and then SILENCE! Of course I run in there and what do you know? The child has his fingers in his mouth. He just gagged himself. Stinker.
So back to the cleaning schedule. It goes something like this.
Weekly:
Mondays: Change sheets and do laundry (Just FYI, I barely ever change my sheets. I put this down in hopes that I become a better person and change my sheets...but it hasn't helped)
Tuesdays: Baseboards and dusting.
Wednesday: Windows and wipe down banister
Thursday: Bathrooms
Friday: Fridge, microwave, stove (outer stove)
Saturday: Monthly item
Daily:
Kitchen
Wipe up slobber (FROM THE DOG!)
Make bed (this has actually been LIFE CHANGING!)
Floors (another that is just wishful thinking)
Monthly:
Clean oven
Vaccum stairs
Clean tubs (yep, I barely EVER do those)
Something else that I can't remember right now and am too lazy to get up and look on my fridge
Now, again...I am sooooo imperfect at this schedule, but honestly it helps a lot! My kitchen is mostly clean, the slobber is way better maintained, and everything else is doing pretty good too. Hoorah!
Also, I make my lists first thing in the morning after I get Asher up.
I guess that'll be all for now. I hope that sweet perfect blessed baby boy goes to sleep eventually.
Till next time.
I LOVE your list! OH my gosh the bathroom... ok- I have lived in my house for over 2 yrs and I have cleaned the tubs maybe 2-3 times? yikes!!!! The first time mommy stuff- is exhausting and hard. And I have no answers for you. The only advice i have is to do what works for YOU and YOUR family. I can't stand people who claim that one way is the right way because it's just not true. So follow your mommy instincts, its just so exhuasting the first time around because you haven't practiced those instincts before now! Oh my gosh and the sick thing- do you enforce your normal rules when they are sick? OH man I wonder the same thing, because they need and want comfort, but you do't want to start a bad habit, so confusing. I comfort because I'm a huge baby when I'm sick and need alot of comfort when I'm sick. the guessing game . . . so stressful. I love you!
ReplyDeleteYour list blows my mind. I have someone come to my house and do all of that each week- they even fold m laundry and I am STRESSED BEYOND trying to WASH that laundry the day before she arrives. That's my big to do and I can hardly get THAT together. Baseboards . . . are you INSANE?!!!! Well, even sitting down to make a list impresses me these days. My whole productivity level has gone down the tube. I didn't even make my dinner menu list this week! Crazy! I thought- what's the point? I don't make it anyway! I'll just wing it! Well, I gotta go- but it was nice to hear your voice. Suddenly everyone's about the blog again! I thought it died! The crying dilema happens with each baby, but is definitely the most intense with the first.
ReplyDeleteI'm so glad u blogged!!!!! With Asher...oh dear. It never changes. It's not just being a first time mom. I've gotten at less strict with each baby. Way more about comfort.but it always stresses me out! That cleaning list. Wow. Before I had Blanca I only my cleaned the shower before company. Sheets ...maybe every 6 months. So gross! But very true. Baseboards? Maybe once a year? I'm impressed u even have a list. Even if u don't do it. Ha. Love u so much. Thanks for blogging!!!!!
ReplyDeleteReading your schedule... I was thinking about our conversation about the book someone recommended to me, I thought about my years before you left home. When I got married, I got a book for a wedding present on schedules and teaching children to work. I followed that book for years. Then Terese and read several other books and went to classes at Education week about schedules. I realized that I had spent my whole married life with a schedule. I have more daytime's than you can imagine. And I pretty much followed those plans until you left home. Then slowly over time having your dad here, my schedule had a hard time. So this book has helped me to go back to the life that works for me. I am still not where I want to be, but definitively on my way.
ReplyDeleteReading your schedule... I was thinking about our conversation about the book someone recommended to me, I thought about my years before you left home. When I got married, I got a book for a wedding present on schedules and teaching children to work. I followed that book for years. Then Terese and read several other books and went to classes at Education week about schedules. I realized that I had spent my whole married life with a schedule. I have more daytime's than you can imagine. And I pretty much followed those plans until you left home. Then slowly over time having your dad here, my schedule had a hard time. So this book has helped me to go back to the life that works for me. I am still not where I want to be, but definitively on my way.
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